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DOES ORLANDO BLOOM EVER SEE A GIRL'S INNER BEAUTY?

Hey Doc,

I'm one of your old fans and I have found your "System" to be very true. However, I have a problem that I can't find a solution to, and I hope you can help me with it.

I've been struggling with this issue for three months now and it's still not resolved. No one among my friends is wise enough to give me what I consider to be solid advice.

I met Sandrine a year ago, and during this period we got so close to each other that we started talking about marriage. My problem resides in me, and not her. I love the girl very much, and she has every good point that you'd want in a wife except for one - her looks. It's not that she's unattractive, but she's not a "10." Unfortunately, looks are very important to me. I know that if I resolve this issue I can go forward in my life with confidence in my decisions.

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DOES PAM TELL TOMMY SHE STILL LOVES HIM?

Hey Doc,

I have a big problem. I became friends with Shania, who I used to work with. We had the best times of our lives together - at least I did -- and she also tells me she did too. After she left her husband, we started to date. We then spent two years together in a romantic relationship.

Then the unfortunate happened. I went to work one day and came home that evening to discover that Shania had moved all her stuff out. Keep in mind that no fight happened prior to this, and she couldn't wait for me to get home from work. Later I learned that she had gone back to her ex-husband. She called me from the day she left, but I refused to speak to her.

After three months, I broke down and we talked. Shania wanted to see me again. She was still living with her ex. We hung out a few times and then stopped talking again. Two months later she began to call me all over again to tell me that she missed me and loved me more than anything and that she only hoped I could forgive her for leaving me. I told her that there was no reason for her to leave in the first place because I gave her everything she wanted in a man. And I told her it was easy to forgive but not forget.

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DOES LEONARDO EVER GO OUT WITH A BUNCH OF GIRLS?

Hey Doc,

First off, I want to thank you for putting the "The System" together. I've totally bought into your techniques, but I'm having trouble implementing some of them because I'm very much a beginner.

Here's my problem. I met the gorgeous Lucinda at a club recently. I made sure to keep the conversation light. When we were on the dance floor some casual touching by her occurred. At this point I thought her Interest Level was at least 51%. I made an excuse to leave at the peak of our interaction and asked for her number. She gave it to me and I left. At this point I thought I was doing pretty well.

I decided to text-message Lucinda a greeting the next evening. I know you say to wait a week, but I thought one text message would be okay since I didn't actually phone her. A few days later Lucinda called and invited me out with a bunch of her friends. I accepted because the offer was incoming.

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HOW DOES MATT DILLON HANDLE THE WAITRESS?

Hey Doc,

I'm a newcomer to "The System" but it's really turned things around for me. Thank you!

Here's my situation. My buddies and I have been eating at the same restaurant for a few years now. One waitress who works there, Brigitte, is a Beautiful Woman and a real sweetheart. About two months ago, I noticed her making eyes at me. Before letting my ego shoot through the roof, I tried to undervalue her Interest Level and kept to my usual routine, which was nothing more than "hello" and "goodbye." A few weeks ago, some of her female coworkers began to drop her name a lot to me. They even asked if I "missed" her when she was off one night.

I took this as a good sign, so I had my birthday party at the restaurant. Afterwards I ended up being invited out by the whole restaurant crew. When I asked Brigitte if she was going, she said, "Are you going to be there?" We all went out, chatted, shot pool, and had a great time.

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SHOULD NICK EVER TAKE JESSICA BACK?

Hey Doc,

I'm 23 and I started reading "The System" two years ago. My older brother, who had just recently married, gave me his copy of your book after his wedding and told me to read it and learn from it. At the time I was involved with Lisette and thought, "Why the heck do I need a dating book?" But I read it and found it really interesting. The principles worked and things seemed to be going just fine between us. I was a Challenge. We both had our own circle of friends and kept things fresh.

I started dating Lisette when I was 21 and she was 18. It was young love. She always talked about marriage and she even wanted me to move in with her when we were both attending university in the same city. I thought we were too young, and told her it was best to take things slow and put an emphasis on school first.

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DOES SNOOP DOG EVER PLAY THE GENTLEMAN?

Hey Doc,

First off, I've told friends about "The System" and helped them improve their Confidence by showing them the way. But I can't seem to follow my own advice or yours in my present situation. I hope you can coach me.

I've known Katrina for four years. I met her through a mutual friend. She was in a long-term relationship at the time and we only hung out every few months with this common friend. But there was something in her looks, eyes and personality that always intrigued me.

Fast forward to the present. I'm living several hours away from Katrina and chat online with her once a week. Strangely, this has probably been the best way we've "advanced" our relationship, as we never really warmed up to one another in person.

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HOW DOES STEDMAN TELL OPRAH SHE'S PACKING ON THE POUNDS?

Hey Doc,

I happened to stumble across your columns when I was surfing for love advice and I thought you might be able to help me.

Jeanna and I have been dating for several years. I've tried to get her to marry me on occasion, but she seems content with the way things are. I still nudge her about it from time to time, but since it never works, I've given up and now just accept our relationship for what it is. I'm 50, by the way, and she's 46 and we've both abandoned the idea of having kids, so I guess it's no big deal.

My problem is Jeanna's weight. She's a detective on our police force here in New York City, and her job is very stressful - it involves investigating homicides and other violent crimes. When her duties become particularly nerve-wracking, she has a tendency to overeat - donuts, pizza, pastrami sandwiches and the like, and to do it on the run with no thought for nutrition. Then she comes home and has a few drinks to unwind. On top of it all, she might not work out at the gym for weeks on end.

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